Welcome to the place where you
don’t need to “have it all together”
And yet …
When you begin practicing these principles,
things DO begin to come together
and the strong, calm & competent woman,
who God created you to be,
rises up from the ashes!
Who is Nancy?
Nancy is a Christian, professional life coach, certified through one of the largest, recognized and respected coaching organizations, International Coach Federation, (ICF). Because of the end of her 20-year marriage and almost not making it out of a very dark pit, it has become a profound passion for Nancy to share her journey in an entertaining yet poignant way and help other women embrace their imperfections as a GIFT leading to strength, peace and joy.
One of Nancy’s strongest desires is to help women navigate the challenges of a Christian divorce with integrity and wholeheartedness. Nancy is the mother of two adult sons and lives in a suburb of Portland, Oregon with her cat, Zipper.
A Place to (Re)Discover:
Clarity – Leave behind overwhelm & confusion. Step into confidence & focus.
Peace – Experience consistent calm regardless of the circumstances.
Joy – Intentionally dream & uncover your passions … even if you’re not sure you remember how!
Gems for the Journey:
♥︎ John Wayne
“Courage is being scared to death… and saddling up anyway.”
♥︎ Guillaume Apollinaire
“Come to the edge.’ ‘We can’t. We’re afraid.’ ‘Come to the edge.’ ‘We can’t. We will fall!’ ‘Come to the edge.’ And they came. And he pushed them. And they flew.”
♥︎ Saint Paul
“So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.
Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.” ~ Romans 12:2 (Message)
How would you like to ..
♥︎ Discover ways to see clearly the path God intends for you?
♥︎ Uncover who you were created to BE?
♥︎ Recognize what you were created to DO?
♥︎ Discover new perspectives & let go of old ways of thinking?
♥︎ Finally accomplish things you know will bring you profound fulfillment?
♥︎ Experience true forgiveness & the freedom it brings?
♥︎ Take one baby step at a time – convinced that God’s is with you along the way?
♥︎ Dare to act with the strength that was intended for you?
♥︎ Be strong, calm & confident no matter what comes your way?
Real Life Reflection
Can you find your own thoughts or feelings anywhere in my story?
Life happens – and sometimes it hurts. A lot. Clearly, we live in a broken world. There IS a perfect place of love that is coming but is not here yet.
So, seriously … how can God expect us to live a life of strength and abundance in this fractured world? On the surface, it seems impossible that these two realities could ever coexist!
As God guided me – step by step – out of a dangerous season, I began to cling to some principles that I believe are grounded in Scripture. Let me share a bit of my journey, so you have some context for how I got where I am today. Just maybe, this perspective will help your thought process too.
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During and after my marriage, I struggled for many years with depression, loneliness, a victim-mentality, financial challenges & unemployment. Then shortly after the divorce, my mom passed away which sent me over the edge, straight into the great abyss of alcoholism. This dreadful season was actually made longer and much more painful by my unwillingness to allow the pain of my grief to surface in my life. I constantly tried to escape its pursuit.
I would do just about anything to elude the tidal waves of anguish I felt were chasing me. I sought out these reprieves even though I knew they would be short-lived and I intentionally pushed away any consideration of the price I was paying for them. I didn’t care. If I could breathe freely for a little while, it didn’t matter what it cost me!
Because of my inability to make wise decisions on my own at this time, as well as my choice to isolate a much as possible, I was living my life on very dangerous ground. I was unable to see this single, critically important fact: I was paying for those brief moments of escape with my very life and I watched my true self – the Nancy that God created me to be – begin to slip away!
There is much more I could share about my journey out of that very dark pit, but my intent for sharing this story is to focus on the life-giving principles of the pursuing love of my Savior – not the stench of the outhouse I lived in for a while.
So, let’s turn a corner…
There’s one thing I know for sure today – and I would have saved myself much anguish if I would have accepted this truth back then! This little nugget can breathe the very LIFE back into a grieving person, so it’s worth listening carefully to.
Are you ready?! It’s super important.
Here is it … the fastest way out of the pain, is to go through it!
The only thing avoidance accomplishes is to make the path last longer and most likely, with MORE brokenness. I have also come to know that God uses these times of ‘refinement’ to pave the way for profound love and beauty to grow in our lives.
I know, I know! Most likely, you don’t care at all about love and beauty right now. All you want is for the gut-wrenching season to be over!
I get it. I understand it. I lived it.
However, as your sister, on this path with you who’s maybe just a couple steps in front of you, you WILL care about love and beauty in your future! As you allow the wholeness to come, love and beauty WILL matter to you, sooner than you think. I promise!
There is much more to say on this topic and if you want to hear a bit more, you may want to check out this video blog.
As ludicrous as it sounds, today I look back at all I have experienced and am genuinely grateful to have gone through such a devastating time. It has produced in me a strength, birthed from the humble position of complete brokenness, that could not have been possible without the purifying fire of grief and the gentle touch of God to make me whole with an entirely new perspective on life.
As I write this to you today, I have clarity of identity and purpose, laced with wisdom and compassion, that is more valuable to me than any riches could ever be.
So, if you can identify with any of my story and want to move through your own journey, I invite you to keep reading. Keep listening. Keep watching. Learn from the principles ahead that offer strength for challenges that may come your way.
Changing perspectives, changes everything.
Helpful Hints from Hollywood
“… In the movies, we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady. But for some reason, you’re behaving like the best friend.”
~ From the movie, The Holiday